tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15103525.post9220596157489704827..comments2023-10-09T13:28:54.668+01:00Comments on My word!: Despicable DowryDesiGirlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09719027278943104286noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15103525.post-23948208137485762252009-07-04T13:48:40.725+01:002009-07-04T13:48:40.725+01:00I agree with you all specially kalyan is very righ...I agree with you all specially kalyan is very right in saying that in most of the societies it is a question of prestige of the girl's father. I just hate this concept of dowry but my observation is that the problem is not just the pressure from from family of groom and due to society. I have seen girls who brought heavy dowry and then feel proud about it. <a href="http://www.creditcardonlines.com" rel="nofollow">credit cards</a>...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15103525.post-87265145281949323562007-06-25T19:09:00.000+01:002007-06-25T19:09:00.000+01:00Dowry is a menace, agreed. But the problem is, mos...Dowry is a menace, agreed. But the problem is, most of he people concerned(Bride, Groom, FIL, MIL) dont see it that way. As you stated, its a mere GIFT (Oh! what an understatement). In several communities, the prestige of a girl's father is actually proportional to the GIFTS he can shell out. And in several others, all the biases that a girl child has to face is due to the feeling among parents that a girl is a 'Liability' rather than an 'asset'.Kalyanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12236887928660925802noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15103525.post-44378944774822462252007-03-13T02:47:00.000+00:002007-03-13T02:47:00.000+00:00Lets dwell into a different topic. Bribing is a cr...Lets dwell into a different topic. Bribing is a crime and its nasty, how many people stopped giving bribes and how many stopped taking bribes? It won't stop cuz its human greed that keeps it alive. Dowry is the same. I see in my generation a lot of people don't give and don't take dowry. Its very much prevalent though. My friend's fiancee's father was offended when my friend refused to take dowry. <BR/><BR/>The very people IAS/IPS, Judges, Politicians and even Feminists give and take dowry. Its free money, who doesn't want it? <BR/><BR/>If you take trading, despite huge regulations by SEC so many people cheated the system to make little extra money. There are always people who want extra *free* money. <BR/><BR/>It won't stop unless each and every individual stops it. So women tell your parents that you wouldn't want to get married in case of dowry. Guys tell your parents you are man enough to earn your living.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15103525.post-82100009642935916062007-03-09T19:45:00.000+00:002007-03-09T19:45:00.000+00:00mind curry,thank you for the compliments! match fi...mind curry,<BR/>thank you for the compliments! match fixing zindabad! ;)<BR/><BR/>apu,<BR/>wise words - as always! u and i shall be trail blazers then!!! <BR/><BR/>vijay,<BR/>u blokesablogin? <BR/>luckily for me, my dad is a v vocal anti-dowry, anti-establishment person. so when my FIL said ' we don't expect any dosh etc', he went 'good-o' and carried on the way he wanted. much later, i learnt from S and my MIL's dropped hints that that was the same line my SIL's FIL marofied and my FIL went on giving her 10 lakhs plus plots of land, half a dozen cows, 2 villages, 8 cars and so on. (spot the exaggeration here!)DesiGirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09719027278943104286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15103525.post-89580762593391293722007-03-09T07:26:00.000+00:002007-03-09T07:26:00.000+00:00feel bad for you that you had such an experience t...feel bad for you that you had such an experience that u write so conclusively about. in my case, actually in all the cases of marriages in my family as well as at my inlaws, there was no threat to anyone's bank balance, nor demands. Most were pragmatic division of ancestral jewels and 3 silk saris from the inlaws(the nishchaythartham one, the muhurtham one and the grihapravesam one), one from the parents(shanthi muhurtham) and one from the mama (for oonjal)!and in all cases, the sister in law (nathanaar or nanad)actually kept a fantastic spread for vilayadal (that included my sister and me when our brother got married).blokesabloginhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04210917353041484551noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15103525.post-43359790253844994402007-03-05T05:03:00.000+00:002007-03-05T05:03:00.000+00:00The whole concept of "buying" is repulsive; The pr...The whole concept of "buying" is repulsive; The problem is people don't think of it that way. They think of it as being entitled to it, cos, *gasp*, they have tht most precious of things, a son. And - I blame girls too. Why not have the guts to say that I won't get married if this is what it involves ? Atleast urban, economically independent women can. But too many women again seem to think of it as something their dads *need* to do.apuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07806361192017548240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15103525.post-55415554375697558042007-03-04T19:17:00.000+00:002007-03-04T19:17:00.000+00:00very well written! you got a neat style!i think th...very well written! you got a neat style!<BR/><BR/>i think the whole concept of marriage by itself is too hyped up in our "society". the society is the monster we have created and we are a part of today. i think arranged marriages are the biggest scams happening in india today - lalu, mulayam, jayalalitha and all come only after.Mind Curryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11788912357913882065noreply@blogger.com